I Moved to the US and Made These Mistakes—Don’t Do the Same!

Moving to a new country isn’t just a change of address—it’s a leap into the unknown, filled with challenges, surprises, and opportunities for growth. When I moved to the United States, I thought I had prepared for everything. But as with most major life changes, reality had its own plans. In this post, I’ll share the hard-won lessons, the cultural shocks, and the small victories that shaped my experience—all with the hope that you can make your transition smoother than mine.

The Reality of a New World

There’s a reason why moving to America feels overwhelming for so many. Every facet of life—healthcare, housing, transportation, even the way people interact—can feel foreign and sometimes baffling. When you land in the US, it’s more than just a change of scenery; it’s stepping into a world with different rules and unwritten codes. It’s easy to get lost, literally and figuratively, in the chaos. But preparation and the right attitude can make a world of difference.

Understanding Healthcare in the US

The American healthcare system is as complex as it is expensive. Even with insurance, I found myself knee-deep in paperwork, medical jargon, and bills that didn’t make sense. Terms like "deductible," "co-pay," and "out-of-pocket maximum" were a foreign language. My advice? Do your research before you arrive. Learn the basics, compare insurance plans, and connect with people who’ve navigated the system before you. Not only will it save you money, but it will also spare you unnecessary stress and confusion.

The Enormous Diversity Across States

The US isn’t just one country—it’s fifty states with their own identities. I underestimated just how much culture, laws, and even language differ from state to state. My first move landed me in a bustling east coast city with sky-high rent and few jobs in my field, forcing me to move again within a year. Take time to research not just the city but also the state you’re considering. Look into cost of living, local job markets, climate, and transportation options. The difference between states can be dramatic, and a little research goes a long way toward finding your ideal home.

Getting Around: Transportation Realities

Where I’m from, public transport is reliable and widely used. In the US, outside major urban centers, having a car isn’t a luxury—it’s a necessity. The costs go beyond the car itself: insurance, gas, maintenance, and even learning new driving laws. If your new home isn’t well served by trains or buses, budget for a car and start wrapping your head around American road rules before you arrive. Reliable transportation will influence not just your daily routine, but your social and work life as well.

Building Your Social Network from Scratch

Moving somewhere new can feel incredibly lonely. In the US—a country oft celebrated for diversity—building deep friendships can take time and active effort. Looking back, I wish I had joined local communities, clubs, or volunteering programs as soon as I arrived. These circles offer not only camaraderie, but also help you practice your English and feel more at home. Don’t wait for connections to fall in your lap; go out and make them. Your future self will thank you.

Navigating Everyday Life and Social Norms

Imagine being confused by grocery shopping or not knowing how much to tip at a restaurant. In the United States, small details like these matter. Tipping around 15-20% is standard in many service industries, unlike some countries where tipping is minimal or not expected. Then there’s figuring out utility bills, understanding sales taxes, and deciphering supermarket choices. Each of these everyday puzzles shapes your experience. Learn the social rules—they’ll help you settle in and avoid embarrassing moments.

Adapting to American Work Culture

If you’re moving for work, be ready for a shift in expectations. American workplaces value initiative and proactive problem-solving. Don’t be afraid to take charge or suggest ideas. Hierarchies, communication styles, and work-life balance may differ from what you’re used to. Ask questions during interviews, get clear on company culture, and be open to adapting your style. Remember, showing commitment and assertiveness is often appreciated.

Mastering English: Your Gateway to a Fuller Life

Even in America’s diverse, multilingual environment, improving your English pays dividends. Beyond basic conversation, strong English skills make life easier: from job opportunities to building relationships and understanding cultural references. Take classes, binge-watch American shows, and practice with friends. The more comfortable you are in English, the more doors will open for you.

Finding Belonging by Embracing Your Story

Six months after landing, I attended a friend’s potluck with food from my home country. Instead of feeling out of place, I was astonished by the curiosity and warmth of my hosts. This experience shattered the myth that Americans aren’t welcoming. People wanted to know about me, my food, my story. Don’t hide your identity—sharing your background can foster friendships and help you knit yourself into your new community.

Checklist for a Smoother Move

Here’s what I’d do differently if I were moving to the US now:

- Research the city and state thoroughly—focus on costs, jobs, and transportation.

- Learn the healthcare system and choose insurance before you arrive.

- Understand local social norms like tipping and workplace culture.

- Build connections early through clubs, volunteering, or meetups.

- Invest time in improving your English continuously.

- Budget not just for rent and utilities, but also for car ownership if needed.

- Above all, be open-minded and proactive—don’t wait for life to come to you.

Final Thoughts: Your American Adventure Awaits

Relocating to the US isn’t easy, and it certainly isn’t predictable. But with thoughtful preparation, humility, and a willingness to connect, it can be more than an upheaval—it can be the start of something extraordinary. Embrace the unknown. Take risks, prepare well, stay curious, and remember: every challenge you face brings you closer to making America your home.

If you found these insights helpful or have your own worries or excitement about moving to the US, share them in the comments below. Let’s build a community of dreamers and doers, all moving forward together. Until next time—keep dreaming big and moving forward.